I'm trying to stay positive, but with another heat wave bearing down this weekend, I'm not happy. I can't go to the beach or sit in a chair any lower than a throne for Queen Elizabeth--it's the hip popping problem, as I explained in earlier entry. I see some old friends are all on a Blue Cruise together off the coast of Turkey and I'm knashing my teeth, mad that the hip problems that began there well over two years ago and have plagued me ever since, are now culminating in this summer of blahness as my ligaments heal around a piece of titanium. My friend Tanya is in India and she was just bathed in milk at a yoga retreat center. Mary is in Istanbul, no doubt with a cute guy. Janice just came home from the Cape, Karen is off to the beach all week, and Linda back from her Alaskan cruise. I've got to stay off Facebook so I don't incinerate in jealousy and the hot sun blaring down on Central MA.
Meanwhile, it's the Northboro scene. I've been pawing through circulars trying to find a lawn chair I can use outside that's nice and high. There is no such thing. I've become the Queen of Geriatrics, surveying all seats as potential disaster. The fourth of July heralds all these sales for people buying kayaks for the lake or the beach, people with plans and large storage containers strapped on the tops of their cars scurrying off to enjoy the cheaper gas. I'm not one of those people! I'm a grouchy bitch!
I need a big subject to occupy my mind, my usual method of escape. I was thinking about finding a history of the Lyman School in Westboro, where my dad worked for several years before heading to the book bindery. He was in charge of the cattle, and teaching the "boys" (who ranged from homeless, abandoned kids to psychopathic killers) how to milk and care for a herd. I remember him saying that he couldn't turn his back on the kids because they could kill him, as they killed the night watchmen one evening. I wish I knew more about that era, the days when the virtues of hard work were supposed to cure young boys and adolescents. Shirley--an institution in Shirley, MA--was where young girls were sent, and our mothers sometimes mentioned that we might like to go and live there.
Friday, June 29, 2012
Thursday, June 28, 2012
Berberian's Market Garden
Yesterday I ventured off to Berberian's, which is a farmstand to beat all farmstands here in Northboro. Except for lettuce, of which there were endless field rows of a vast variety, including oakleaf, Boston, and buttercrunch, the summer vegetables are not quite in. A signed predicted corn for the weekend. The Berberian family, of which my old friend Patsy is a family member, always led the way in our neighborhood of market gardens. This Armenian family fled to the U.S. during their persecution by the Turks, from what I always understood, and they somehow became masters of agriculture in what was then a small Massachusetts town.
Toward the end of his life, Dad even rented out his fertile eight acres to them, as did the Weed family next door. Although Dad had always raised and sold vegetables at our shabby stand, which consisted of a table peeling paint and a rickety kitchen chair, he couldn't continue at the end of his life when he'd had stroke after stroke. The Berberians figured out how to put in an irrigation system from Farr's pond, which was something we'd never figured out to try in our market garden neighborhood.
The large Berberian stand sits behind their old homestead and it employs a lot of young people, who cut the greens off the beets in the backroom, or who man the scales at the checkout. I was selecting brussel sprouts, my feet and crutches feeling insecure on the wet cement floor, when a woman asked me how to cook them. Well, the best way, I told her, is to roast them in a little olive oil. I am surprised when people fear vegetables. We ate heaping bowls of them fresh from the garden all summer when I was a kid, sweat pouring down our faces and backs. We consumed massive bowls of fresh asparagus, picked only a few hours prior to dinner, and all the sweet corn that couldn't go out to the "road" for sale because it might have a small worm, easily removed.
I walked down the small hill to the mill pond when I left the stand. Armeno's sits across the street where the old mill used to be. They roast coffee beans in there. I was on a bender to get some great coffee to grind at home, but the traffic that careens up and down that hill was terrifying for a woman on crutches. Still, I got to hobble in and smell all those beans from all over the world.
Toward the end of his life, Dad even rented out his fertile eight acres to them, as did the Weed family next door. Although Dad had always raised and sold vegetables at our shabby stand, which consisted of a table peeling paint and a rickety kitchen chair, he couldn't continue at the end of his life when he'd had stroke after stroke. The Berberians figured out how to put in an irrigation system from Farr's pond, which was something we'd never figured out to try in our market garden neighborhood.
The large Berberian stand sits behind their old homestead and it employs a lot of young people, who cut the greens off the beets in the backroom, or who man the scales at the checkout. I was selecting brussel sprouts, my feet and crutches feeling insecure on the wet cement floor, when a woman asked me how to cook them. Well, the best way, I told her, is to roast them in a little olive oil. I am surprised when people fear vegetables. We ate heaping bowls of them fresh from the garden all summer when I was a kid, sweat pouring down our faces and backs. We consumed massive bowls of fresh asparagus, picked only a few hours prior to dinner, and all the sweet corn that couldn't go out to the "road" for sale because it might have a small worm, easily removed.
I walked down the small hill to the mill pond when I left the stand. Armeno's sits across the street where the old mill used to be. They roast coffee beans in there. I was on a bender to get some great coffee to grind at home, but the traffic that careens up and down that hill was terrifying for a woman on crutches. Still, I got to hobble in and smell all those beans from all over the world.
Wednesday, June 27, 2012
Norah Ephron
It stinks that Norah Ephron died today. It's a loaded issue for me when someone so creative dies at the beginning of her 70s. After I told my sister, she went off on a riff about how we've all got to eat cruciferous vegetables and Dr. Furman style garlic and spinach shakes. You've heard it all, no doubt, about turning your genes on and off like stop lights because you ate a donut. I hear that theory as the usual "blame the victim" kind of attitude that people take when bad luck befalls someone they know. We'd rather believe they slipped up, neglected their vegetables and tofu instead of understanding that life is a crapshoot.
But, I have the equally illogical view that people who stay creative and love their lives will live longer. Except for hating her dowager's hump and her neck, Norah seemed to be having a pretty nice life, so what happened--how could she get leukemia at 71? Apparently even Norah saw the fickle nature of fate because she spoke, before her illness, of doing all you love NOW, while you can, because people get sick randomly. She said something about knowing what it is that you love and going out to do it generously--that stopped me in my tracks. How about you? Do you know what you love and gather it while ye may? I find my mind interferes with knowing what I love. I might work on my novel, for example, and really enjoy what I wrote, only to return the next day and reread it with disgust, thereby deciding that I will spend the rest of my life doing yoga, meditating, drinking spinach garlic shakes and renouncing all egoic activities.
If you are in the mood, write to me and tell me what you'd really, really love to do with the rest of your life. I'm interested, and maybe you can give me ideas. I don't want to hear goody two-shoes stuff unless you mean it, OK? By that I mean the way I can sometimes decide that I want to spend the rest of my life walking on my knees to a holy site 2000 miles away. These thoughts are holdovers from a past life a psychic told me that I'd led, when I was a nun, staring out the convent door. This nun has helped me make a lot of decisions in my life, and most of them were bad ones. I much prefer that angry adolescent who lurks within, never doing anything except what he wants to do, copping an attitude. I don't usually function in the world this way, but maybe I should.
Anyway, goodbye to our Harry Met Sally girl. Norah hand-picked Meryl Streep for the role as Julia Childs. I love Meryl a lot too. She'd better hang on!
But, I have the equally illogical view that people who stay creative and love their lives will live longer. Except for hating her dowager's hump and her neck, Norah seemed to be having a pretty nice life, so what happened--how could she get leukemia at 71? Apparently even Norah saw the fickle nature of fate because she spoke, before her illness, of doing all you love NOW, while you can, because people get sick randomly. She said something about knowing what it is that you love and going out to do it generously--that stopped me in my tracks. How about you? Do you know what you love and gather it while ye may? I find my mind interferes with knowing what I love. I might work on my novel, for example, and really enjoy what I wrote, only to return the next day and reread it with disgust, thereby deciding that I will spend the rest of my life doing yoga, meditating, drinking spinach garlic shakes and renouncing all egoic activities.
If you are in the mood, write to me and tell me what you'd really, really love to do with the rest of your life. I'm interested, and maybe you can give me ideas. I don't want to hear goody two-shoes stuff unless you mean it, OK? By that I mean the way I can sometimes decide that I want to spend the rest of my life walking on my knees to a holy site 2000 miles away. These thoughts are holdovers from a past life a psychic told me that I'd led, when I was a nun, staring out the convent door. This nun has helped me make a lot of decisions in my life, and most of them were bad ones. I much prefer that angry adolescent who lurks within, never doing anything except what he wants to do, copping an attitude. I don't usually function in the world this way, but maybe I should.
Anyway, goodbye to our Harry Met Sally girl. Norah hand-picked Meryl Streep for the role as Julia Childs. I love Meryl a lot too. She'd better hang on!
Tuesday, June 26, 2012
Morning
Marcia, my sister, was off to line dancing this a.m., so I went to town before more rain fell. Rain on the bottoms of my rubber crutch legs can end up in disaster as one fall could make this titanium hip pop out of place! One of the visiting nurses told me horror stories which properly scared me--people cutting their toenails three months into healing and POP...out comes the hip. A woman flouncing down on a low sofa and SPROING. One nurse who came here to the house heaped tale upon tale, wagging a finger in my face.
Anyway, I was thinking today of two very good women who recently went through cancer treatment, and how I have no right to complain. Noble thoughts last about one minute, then I'm off on my grouchy riff, but nevertheless...this is the life in comparison. I just need to get used to my new life of spiced tea lattes at LaLaJava after a ride to the library where I nab some great books. Once or twice a week, I pop into the second hand clothing shop, and the woman who runs it tells me I'm getting stronger. She also gave me a dead cheap price on a brand new Coach bag. Hey, I like this--attention! Up at Wegman's supermarket, check-out folks tell me their own horror stories--broken ankles, broken foot. For once, I'm not in a big rush to get out because I currently have no job, and this is my strange new social life. I like talking to strangers, holding up the line, fumbling with keys and crutches and being brave. I give the poor shoppers behind me a big smile with slightly trembling lips, the martyr.
When I moved here three weeks ago, I left behind Hardwick, such a beautiful town in Western Ma. I moved back here to Northboro, which is closer to Boston and where my sister and I grew up. Of course I miss the Hardwick cows grazing on the hills, the smell of manure (yes, you really do develop a kind of enjoyment for that), those big old farmhouses that sprawl out in every direction back from the time when generations lived together. But, I would be going mad there now in my current state. I'm still in wonderment that any store I want is so close. Despite our proximity to malls and box stores, there are blueberry bushes behind Marcia's house, and I went out and picked some the other night to eat on cereal. Marcia hangs out her clothes in the summer, and they smell so fresh, even if there are those peaked shoulders from the clothespins. After my nephew mowed the overgrown lawn the other day, this left the delicious smell of hay flowing through the open windows. There are fields of wildflowers floating in the breeze behind the house, all the way down to the edge of the woods. There's so much you can name when you're home--black-eyed susans, Queen Anne's lace, red winged blackbirds, and wood turtles. You don't feel that ease of familiarity in other parts of the world.
Anyway, I was thinking today of two very good women who recently went through cancer treatment, and how I have no right to complain. Noble thoughts last about one minute, then I'm off on my grouchy riff, but nevertheless...this is the life in comparison. I just need to get used to my new life of spiced tea lattes at LaLaJava after a ride to the library where I nab some great books. Once or twice a week, I pop into the second hand clothing shop, and the woman who runs it tells me I'm getting stronger. She also gave me a dead cheap price on a brand new Coach bag. Hey, I like this--attention! Up at Wegman's supermarket, check-out folks tell me their own horror stories--broken ankles, broken foot. For once, I'm not in a big rush to get out because I currently have no job, and this is my strange new social life. I like talking to strangers, holding up the line, fumbling with keys and crutches and being brave. I give the poor shoppers behind me a big smile with slightly trembling lips, the martyr.
When I moved here three weeks ago, I left behind Hardwick, such a beautiful town in Western Ma. I moved back here to Northboro, which is closer to Boston and where my sister and I grew up. Of course I miss the Hardwick cows grazing on the hills, the smell of manure (yes, you really do develop a kind of enjoyment for that), those big old farmhouses that sprawl out in every direction back from the time when generations lived together. But, I would be going mad there now in my current state. I'm still in wonderment that any store I want is so close. Despite our proximity to malls and box stores, there are blueberry bushes behind Marcia's house, and I went out and picked some the other night to eat on cereal. Marcia hangs out her clothes in the summer, and they smell so fresh, even if there are those peaked shoulders from the clothespins. After my nephew mowed the overgrown lawn the other day, this left the delicious smell of hay flowing through the open windows. There are fields of wildflowers floating in the breeze behind the house, all the way down to the edge of the woods. There's so much you can name when you're home--black-eyed susans, Queen Anne's lace, red winged blackbirds, and wood turtles. You don't feel that ease of familiarity in other parts of the world.
Monday, June 25, 2012
Monday, June 25
I've finally made it three weeks past a hip replacement, and I think they removed more than just a hipbone. Part of my brain, which contains humor, has also been excised. The only time I've laughed in these weeks was when I was running down innocents with my battery operated shopping chair at Wegman's. Now, that WAS funny.
I was not built for problems, especially physical problems. I come from a long line of people who use their bodies as bulldozers or plows. My first week home with the walker, I devised a system of hauling large objects behind it, like a suitcase, with a couple of ropes. My father, a man who certainly lived a short distance from his body, once saved his van from accidently rolling into the car behind him by placing his entire body between both. This worked out well as he didn't get sued. Getting his body out of there with the help of the police proved to be a problem, though.
Getting around with two crutches, as I do at the moment, presents its challenges. Did you know that handicapped folks like me have to have all these handy dandy tools in order to pull their underwear up, haul cans off the shelf, or grapple with the wet bar of soap that fell on the floor when they take a shower (on a tub seat)? I drop a crutch on the floor, then I have to thump over to get the plastic gripper to pick it up. If I drop the crutch in the library parking lot, as I did last week, I have to use the other crutch to push the fallen one up my leg, where I can grab it as I hang on to the car.
The crutches did come in handy a few weeks back, though, when my sister's cat came banging into the house with a terrified chipmunk in its mouth. The chipmunk escaped into a back bedroom, and after Marcia built a track for it out of long, buttressed walls of shoes and dirty clothes along the edges, the chipmunk came flying out into the kitchen. It was very alive, and I loudly thumped my crutches to serve as further guideposts to the great outdoors.
One of the most interesting devises for Handicapped Happiness is the raised toilet seat. Mine is pink and plastic and, so deep that it's hard to remember there's water beneath the shoot. Women who visit the house don't show too much queasiness around it, perhaps because they have less equipment to lose in the mysterious center. Men come to the house, ponder how to befriend the thing, and then wrench it off to do their business in a manly way. They forget how the thing fitted over the toilet (both seats have to be up). There are a lot of sounds and swearing until they emerge, usually in defeat, and ask a woman to put it back on.
I was not built for problems, especially physical problems. I come from a long line of people who use their bodies as bulldozers or plows. My first week home with the walker, I devised a system of hauling large objects behind it, like a suitcase, with a couple of ropes. My father, a man who certainly lived a short distance from his body, once saved his van from accidently rolling into the car behind him by placing his entire body between both. This worked out well as he didn't get sued. Getting his body out of there with the help of the police proved to be a problem, though.
Getting around with two crutches, as I do at the moment, presents its challenges. Did you know that handicapped folks like me have to have all these handy dandy tools in order to pull their underwear up, haul cans off the shelf, or grapple with the wet bar of soap that fell on the floor when they take a shower (on a tub seat)? I drop a crutch on the floor, then I have to thump over to get the plastic gripper to pick it up. If I drop the crutch in the library parking lot, as I did last week, I have to use the other crutch to push the fallen one up my leg, where I can grab it as I hang on to the car.
The crutches did come in handy a few weeks back, though, when my sister's cat came banging into the house with a terrified chipmunk in its mouth. The chipmunk escaped into a back bedroom, and after Marcia built a track for it out of long, buttressed walls of shoes and dirty clothes along the edges, the chipmunk came flying out into the kitchen. It was very alive, and I loudly thumped my crutches to serve as further guideposts to the great outdoors.
One of the most interesting devises for Handicapped Happiness is the raised toilet seat. Mine is pink and plastic and, so deep that it's hard to remember there's water beneath the shoot. Women who visit the house don't show too much queasiness around it, perhaps because they have less equipment to lose in the mysterious center. Men come to the house, ponder how to befriend the thing, and then wrench it off to do their business in a manly way. They forget how the thing fitted over the toilet (both seats have to be up). There are a lot of sounds and swearing until they emerge, usually in defeat, and ask a woman to put it back on.
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